How To Forgive Someone Who Has Hurt You In 1. Steps. Even When Forgiveness Feels Impossible. Dr. Wayne W. Dyer. Artboard.png' alt='Forgive One Another' title='Forgive One Another' />Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, with all malice, and be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another. Forgiveness 3. 98 Comments. Forgiving others is essential for spiritual growth. Your experience of someone who has hurt you, while painful, is now nothing more that a thought or feeling that you carry around. These thoughts of resentment, anger, and hatred represent slow, debilitating energies that will dis empower you if you continue to let these thoughts occupy space in your head. If you could release them, you would know more peace. Below I share how to forgive someone who has hurt you in 1. Step 1 Move On to the Next Act. Your past history and all of your hurts are no longer here in your physical reality. Dont allow them to be here in your mind, muddying your present moments. Forgive One Another' title='Forgive One Another' />Your life is like a play with several acts. Some of the characters who enter have short roles to play, others, much larger. Some are villains and others are good guys. But all of them are necessary, otherwise they wouldnt be in the play. Embrace them all, and move on to the next act. Step 2 Reconnect to Spirit. Make a new agreement with yourself to always stay connected to Spirit even when it seems to be the most difficult thing to do. If you do this, you will allow whatever degree of perfect harmony that your body was designed for to proliferate. Turn your hurts over to God, and allow Spirit to flow through you. Your new agreement with reality in which youve blended your physical self and your personality with your spiritual God connected self will begin to radiate a higher energy of love and light. Wherever you go, others will experience the glow of your God consciousness, and disharmony and disorder and all manner of problems simply will not flourish in your presence. Become an instrument of thy peace, as St. Francis desires in the first line of his famous prayer. Step 3 Dont Go to Sleep Angry. Each night as I drift off to sleep, I adamantly refuse to use this precious time to review anything that I do not want to be reinforced in the hours of being immersed in my subconscious mind. I choose to impress upon my subconscious mind my conception of myself as a Divine creator in alignment with the one mind. I reiterate my I ams, which I have placed in my  imagination, and I remember that my slumber will be dominated by my last waking concept of myself. I am peaceful, I am content, I am love, and I attract only to myself those who are in alignment with my highest ideals of myself. This is my nightly ritual, always eschewing any temptation to go over any fear of unpleasantness that my ego might be asking me to review. I assume the feeling in my body of those I am statements already fulfilled, and I know that Im allowing myself to be programmed while asleep, for the next day I rise knowing that I am a free agent. In sleep man impresses the subconscious mind with his conception of himself. Neville Goddard. Step 4 Switch the Focus from Blaming Others to Understanding Yourself. Whenever youre upset over the conduct of others, take the focus off those youre holding responsible for your inner distress. Shift your mental energy to allowing yourself to be with whatever youre feeling let the experience be as it may, without blaming others for your feelings. Dont blame yourself eitherJust allow the experience to unfold and tell yourself that no one has the power to make you uneasy without your consent, and that youre unwilling to grant that authority to this person right now. Tell yourself that you are willing to freely experience your emotions without calling them wrong or needing to chase them away. In this way, youve made a shift to self mastery. Its important to bypass blame, and even to bypass your desire to understand the other person instead, focus on understanding yourself. By taking responsibility for how you choose to respond to anything or anyone, youre aligning yourself with the beautiful dance of life. By changing the way you choose to perceive the power that others have over you and you will see a bright new world of unlimited potential for yourself and you will know instantly how to forgive and let go of anything. Step 5 Avoid Telling People What to Do. Avoid thoughts and activities that involve telling people who are perfectly capable of making their own choices what to do. In your family, remember that you do not own anyone. The poet Kahlil Gibran reminds you Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Lifes longing for itself. Figuring out how to forgive an emotional affair is one of the most difficult things you will ever do. Here are 9 simple tips to make it easier. If we hold fast to an unforgiving spirit, we will not be forgiven by God. Dr. Wayne Dyer shares timeless wisdom on how to forgive others and move on from resentment, blame, and past hurtseven when its difficult. Sharpes father of Charlottesville victim People need to stop hating Sharpes father of Charlottesville victim People need to stop hating. They come through you but not from you. This is always true. In fact, disregard any inclination to dominate in all of your relationships. Listen rather than expound. Pay attention to yourself when youre having judgmental opinions and see where self attention takes you. When you replace an ownership mentality with one of allowing, youll begin to see the true unfolding of the Tao in yourself and other people. From that moment on, youll be free of frustration with those who dont behave according to your ego dominated expectations. Step 6 Learn to Let Go and Be Like Water. Rather than attempting to dominate with your forcefulness, be like water flow everywhere theres an opening. Soften your hard edges by being more tolerant of contrary opinions. Interfere less, and substitute listening for directing and telling. When someone offers you their viewpoint, try responding with Ive never considered that beforethank you. Ill give it some thought. When you give up interfering, and opt instead to stream like watergently, softly, and unobtrusively you become forgiveness itself. Picture yourself as having the same qualities as water. Allow your soft, weak, yielding, fluid self to enter places where you previously were excluded because of your inclination to be solid and hard. Flow softly into the lives of those with whom you feel conflicted Picture yourself entering their private inner selves, seeing perhaps for the first time what theyre experiencing. Keep this image of yourself as gently coursing water, and watch how your relationships change. Step 7 Take Responsibility for Your Part. Removing blame means never assigning responsibility to anyone else for what youre experiencing. It means that youre willing to say, I may not understand why I feel this way, why I have this illness, why Ive been victimized, or why I had this accident, but Im willing to say without any guilt or resentment that I own it. I live with, and I am responsible for, having it in my life. Disable Usb Windows 2003 Group Policy on this page. If you take responsibility for having the experience, then at least you have a chance to also take responsibility for removing it or learning from it. If youre in some small perhaps unknown way responsible for that migraine headache or that depressed feeling, then you can go to work to remove it or discover what its message is for you. If, on the other hand, someone or something else is responsible in your mind, then of course youll have to wait until they change for you to get better. And that is unlikely to occur. So you go home with nothing and are left with nothing when peace is really on the other side of the coin. Step 8 Let Go of Resentments.